The dreaded questions
A few epochs ago, I mentioned something called the ‘questionnaire approach’ to writing a book. The conundrum was I couldn’t answer those tough questions until I was ready to write the book, and I couldn’t write the book without being able to answer those tough questions.
When I mention I’m writing a book, I’m usually confronted with similar questions. Or a raised eyebrow and a healthy amount of skepticism.
It usually goes something like this:
“What have you been up to lately?”
“Well, besides the usual, I’m writing a book.”
There’s a lot of responses one can receive after saying they’ve started writing a book.
Here’s a few of the more common ones:
A. “Who isn’t?”
The cynical response. This is implying that all people have given writing a try at some point in their lives and have already failed miserably or, if they haven’t yet, inevitably will fail.
B. “Oh. What’s it called?”
Ah! Either we have some genuine interest here, or they’re casually asking—much the same way one would ask about how the weather is or how a sports team is doing … and could actually care less about the title or the story that lays behind it.
But ‘What’s it called?’ is a tough question to answer if you’re not prepared for it. It took me a lot of composting, writing, and moments of inspiration to finally realize what the title of my book was actually supposed to be.
I guess next time I’ll come up with a ‘working title’; a tentative title just like what films have during production. Because I felt like an idiot not knowing the title of my own book. But eventually I knew. And I graduated to the next part of the conversation, which sometimes they’ll just skip straight to:
C. “So, what’s it about?”
A weighted question…
If I’m too expositional, their eyes will glaze over—guaranteed.
If I say stuff like:
It’s about mankind’s struggle to believe in a world full of empirical data.
or
It’s about being dragged by fate into the world’s torrid whirlwinds.
or
It’s about the shades of grey between good and evil.
or
It’s about surrendering trust to find true love.
or
It’s about achieving a goal you never intended to chase, but will cost you everything in the end.
then I end up sounding like another Barton Fink, complete with delusions of grandeur.
So I tend to say “A high fantasy about a thief.” I try to keep it simple and let them take the bait. You know…. To learn more if they wish.
At that point, the conversation usually moves on to another topic. :P
But if they ever did ask any additional questions, I’d be glad to answer them!
*hint hint*
In our personal quests to conquer the novel, the questions only get harder from there. But unlike the casual masses, us writers are genuinely interested in what we are writing (hopefully!) and we want all the expositional details and tidbits that will help us dig into the meat and bones of our stories.
There comes a day when we know we’re ready to answer those tough questions. That’s when we’re done composting/free writing and ready to create scenes!
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I just had the final edits put to my first novel and I can’t take any of the above questions anymore. Nope, instead I figure I’ll print this up and just hand it over to anyone curious enough to ask about it.
Cheers!
LOL~
You got my permission to print this, then. And gratz on the final edit.
So, what’s it called? ;)
This was a great post! I can totally relate. However, try telling people you’re not working and have decided to be a poet! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!
I usually combine it with writer so it “legitimizes” it somewhat, as in poet/writer or even more favourable writer/poet. Even being a published poet seems to hold very little value. I am forever responding to “Do you get paid for that?”
Such is the plight of the artist, eh?
I commend me you on the courage to do what you love and follow your heart.
Kat
One more thing…a supportive partner helps a great deal too, right?
Kat
Oh do I ever know how this feels. While I’m perfectly happy replying ‘no friggin idea’ when people ask me the title of my book, I learned a good trick for the ‘what’s it about’ question.
The 25-word test is my favorite thing in the world. It helps to keep me focused on the big picture (when so many sideplots are threatening to derail my progress completely) and to give me something to say when people ask me what my stupid book is about. It also helps when writing a query to an agent or publisher.
Basically it’s just an exercise: Describe the plot of your book in 25 words or less. I try to do it early on to give myself direction.
Thus far, I haven’t gotten the ‘who isn’t’ question, and I may very well shake my head and stomp away from the cynical bastard that asks it somewhere down the line. :P
I like your characterization of the questions. (And reminds me of the questions my husband would get on his dissertation — did they really want to know? And would they regret asking?)
I had an awkward conversation at a potluck about what I was working on — I hadn’t even thought of that question (!!) and the short nonfiction piece I was writing was very personal. Not good small talk fodder.
@ Nick: I found your blog but I’ve been perusing it for long enough I can’t remember now how I found it, and that was only about twenty minutes ago. (Shitty memory, sorry.) I was probably looking up high fantasy — I’m an editor and will soon be launching a new fantasy editor site — and this is where I clicked.
I’m glad I did. I’ve enjoyed reading your posts so far and have quite a few more to read. Duty calls, but for now I just wanted to encourage you and say you’re doing an excellent thing here, in blogging about your process but also sticking to your novel writing with the determination of a very promising author.
More later!
I have not gotten to, “I’m writing a book” yet. I think – not sure though – that I prefer to just sidestep any further conversation. It’s not that I’m embarrassed, but that I wish I had written more – I feel behind, and question my own belief in what I write and if it will ever become more than a past-time. So to start telling someone I’m writing seems questionable to even me.
In the end, I just include, “I write.” That seems to be an available comment without being too obvious.
Hmmm, I guess I’m (comment 7) actually the “other steph,” since there’s one here already.
@RG Sanders: You and many other writers. There are countless others who doubt their abilities, fear writing something terrible, feel it’s too late or they’re too old, etc. And I understand so well your sentence here: “to start telling someone I’m writing seems questionable to even me.”
I’ve felt the same way for a very long time. And as an editor, I meet with authors most of whom are nervous, overwhelmed, doubtful, etc. But I read something recently that made a huge difference to me, by Elizabeth Gilbert. It would be too long to post here, so I’ll include the link: http://www.elizabethgilbert.com/writing.htm
If you want to write, if you love to write, and if you want to make it more than just a hobby, even if in the beginning it’s not a book but rather stories or exercises to practise, try giving yourself permission and validation to do it. Forgive yourself as you go and do keep going. Try not to let insecurity and doubt keep you from something you’re passionate about. Let go, and just do it.
I know how hard that sounds, but it’s really the only way: allow yourself to make mistakes and just write.
Wow, Other Steph. That is an excellent, excellent article. Thanks for sharing it.
(And I think you and I can really confuse everyone else on here by chit-chatting back and forth, so I’ll try my best to resist the urge as it arises. :P)
@Kat:
Oh, the plight of the poet…*hugs*
We don’t really need the approval of our mingly friends, anyway. We should just write because we believe in writing. Then they’ll rue the day they scoffed at your poetry before you became famous. *evil laugh*
“a supportive partner helps a great deal too, right?”
Immensely. And I’m not just saying that because she reads here. :)
The love of my life encourages me. She gives me the necessary boost in confidence to take on all my endeavors from work, to writing books – even cooking. And I suck at cooking. Well, actually, I’m getting better.
I know no matter how badly I may fail at something, she’ll always hold me in confidence. It takes off the pressure to succeed. In her eyes, I’m already a successful writer.
@Steph no.1:
Two stephs? You must fight to the death, of course. With balloon swords.
Funny you should mention the 25 words excercise. It happens to be one of the dreaded questions I’ll be talking about soon. I guess I can commit mine to memory for the next suaré I attend. ;)
@Jennifer:
It’s neat to see other writers also experience the same things I do.
I bet all the greats have experienced this very same phenomenon.
Even with all the technology we have now, over the centuries, the process of writing a book hasn’t necessarily changed as much as we might think.
It makes me picture a young Jules Verne around the h’orderves table, trying to pitch the scientific concept of a submarine and how he planned to use it for an upcoming science fiction novel, only to lose everyone’s interest.
@Steph no.2:
I’m glad you clicked here too. Your comments have been very insightful. I loved Elizabeth Gilbert’s article, too. Thanks so much for the words of encouragement. And best of luck with your new editor site! I’ll be sure to check it out.
@RG Sanders:
“I wish I had written more – I feel behind, and question my own belief in what I write and if it will ever become more than a past-time. So to start telling someone I’m writing seems questionable to even me.”
God knows I haven’t written much, either, but it was a long personal journey for me to gain the confidence I needed to write what I believe and be proud of it. I strongly believe in the unique path that lead me here. I believe, with perserverence, it just might add something of worth to the writing world someday.
Everybody goes through the same basic motions. Everybody starts out as a beginner and works their way up the same daunting mountain differently. You might feel like you are behind, but ignore those whispers in your head! I hear them, too. We all hear them.
Just like us, you are a writer; precisely where you are. No more, no less. And we can only get better from here.
And for what it’s worth, I think you are an excellent writer with absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
Steph no. 1: Don’t tell me we are both editors, too?! Where’s my balloon sword? Into battle!!
Ha. Just kidding, of course. There are few enough good editors who are not stiff schoolmarms with large matronly breasts and who wear red pens on a string. I get the feeling you’re not like that, and it’s lovely to meet a fellow editor who’s cool to boot. And you’re cool by virtue of your very name, to start. :)
Cirellio: I’m glad you guys like the EG page. I read it often, and I do love her books. Her short stories are superb.
Thanks for the welcome! As for my site, EditQuest, it’s in the process right now, but I can let you know when it is ready. Thanks for your interest! In the meantime, I’m not here to plug myself, however. I am here because I like it here. :)
It is quite nice here, isn’t it? Spacious, but not barren. Dark, but not dreary. Ahhh, where’s my hammock?
By the way, Other Steph, I popped your balloon sword while your back was turned. En garde! However, I’m not an editor, per se. Just a lowly slusher and PR person for an e-zine.
Cirellio, I’m curious here–what’s your current record for most comments received on any one post? It seems every time I check back here there are more! It’s great!
Steph no. 1: Touché. :)
Also, I started with slush, too. It was painful and therefore a great motivator for me to move on… :)
Oh, interesting. My avatar changed all by herself. The first one is the one I use for my blog. The second one, this new one, is an experimental one I used when playing around on a test site for my upcoming blogsite. She pops up every now and then. Hmmm.
-OS
EditQuest, hm? Hope it’s not as addictive as EverQuest was, for my sake. lol.
I’m glad you find it comfy here at my humble abode. *passes around drinks*
But it is a touch dark here, isn’t it? I’ll brighten things up a bit when I register a domain.
“Cirellio, I’m curious here–what’s your current record for most comments received on any one post? It seems every time I check back here there are more! It’s great!”
Yeah, isn’t it? I LOVE conversations like this ^_^.
We easily have a record here with twenty comments. The average seems to be about five. The most I’ve ever received for one post before this was ten.
That new avatar had me worried there were THREE stephs!
Call me crazy, but I think it sounds like a lot of fun to edit works and read from a slush pile. Maybe someday life will afford me the opportunity.
21! Woohoo!! :)
@ Cirellio: Oh my God, would you believe I never realized the similarity between EverQuest and EditQuest? D’oh! And hurray!! That’s awesome! It *was* QuestEditing and then we honed it to EditQuest. Haha! YES!!
And I hope it IS just as addictive, of course. As a blogsite it won’t only be the typical static pages of an editor’s business site. I’m hoping it will be a place fantasy writers feel comfortable hanging out and conversing about all things fantasy, especially writing and the publishing process. There are other things planned as well, like resources and editing tips and so on. I look forward to it.
PS. It is fun to edit, especially stuff you enjoy reading!
PS. The dark is all right; it’s just that the text is rather faint. Maybe it’s just my 34-yr-old eyes, but I find it a bit small and hard to read! If I get squint lines, it’s all your fault! :)
Steph no. 1: okay, I didn’t mean for my earlier comment to sound as though you weren’t moving on or that there was something wrong with that or where you’re working! My slush was just particularly bad. And they gave us a pay cut and were just horrible in general to work for. It really was a great motivator for me to start my own biz because it was that or die of frustration.
No worries, Other Steph. What would the world come to if everyone who started in slush, stayed in slush? (Things would get pretty soggy, I imagine… Har, har.)
Also, your blog/forum/website — sorry, I’m a bit lost on the details — sounds pretty nifty! A hangout for fantasy writers? Ye gods and little fishes, where do I sign up!?
tip o’ the day: hold down on ‘Ctrl’ and scroll in with your mousewheel ;)
When I try to do that, it just makes the font friggin’ huge. Seems like more of a step back, really…
The ‘end’ button the keyboard seems to do the trick, however. :P
oh, that’s weird. It just goes up one text size at a time for me.
Oh, wow. I thought you meant… never mind. Yes, one text size at a time. Good tip, good tip.
*smacks forehead and walks away*
LOL!
First Steph: Woohoo! Glad you love the idea. I’ll let you know when it’s up! Working on it today… :)
Steph no. 1: Sorry about the confusion. For simplicity’s sake, let’s call it a blogsite. :) It will be my editing business, but also offer tips and resources on getting published and the publishing process, how to be edited, good writing, writing fantasy, stuff like that. It will also have a blog where we talk about all things fantasy; I’m hoping role-playing games come into the discussion as well, because I love them and because they’re a great tool for writers, and I’m discussing with the designers whether or not to have both blog and forum…
The ultimate goal is to welcome and make comfortable fantasy writers who have a dream of being published, who want or need to improve their writing, who have been rejected by publishers and need help revising, those with a need to slough off fear and doubt and have a safe place to do it.
I’ve never gotten a cynical answer to that, and I tell people I’m working on a book all the time. Usually, they’ll ask me what it’s about, and I’ll tell them the genre. Right now everyone in the supermarket near my house knows about it, more or less (I go there for writing-snacks just before they close).
It really depends who you tell, though. Some people hear a brief synopsis and encourage you to continue on (obviously they haven’t been around enough writers). Some want to know how the writing-publishing process works. Some glance over it. Fantasy-fans and people I chat with who enjoy the genre want to know when it’s published. Some even ask if they can be test readers. You never know.
wow! When’s the next flight to wherever you live? :)
The kind of feedback you’re talking about is what I experience online only. It’s reassuring you’ve experienced it face-to-face.
I don’t know too many fantasy fans.
If somebody I knew asked me if they could be a test reader, I would be thrilled.
Ha! I live in Washington State… the home of Microsoft and Wizards of the Coast. It’s particularly fantasy friendly. Of course, I also work at a video game company, so I might have gotten too-used to the geek culture.
The worst comments I’ve ever gotten about writing have been by my uncle and my grandmother. The words are encouraging, but they do so with tight little superior smiles as if they’re humoring me. And they ask me obnoxious questions, if I think I’m going to be the next JK Rowling. … Of course, my mother assures me that that’s about the most sincerity that they can come up with about anything, so it could definitely be worse.
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